How is it that the club of motherhood is talked about in the terms of "planned parenthood" when you get pregnant unexpectedly, but as a woman who has planned her whole life to be a good mom you are told you can not plan for such a thing. Is that not a contradiction to the largest degree?
I realize you can not plan for something completely you do not fully understand, but what is so wrong with thoughtfully trying to plan. Once women are in the club of motherhood they seem to snub those that are not within. Can we not as women promote each other in the differences in how we approach motherhood? In our approach, our character and personality is revealed. The way we love and feel love is put on display for the whole world to see.
As a woman that was raised by an ambitious, single mom for many years, I always vowed to myself that once I had children they would be my ambition. I can remember even as a young girl thinking of the type of mom I would be some day. A hands on, proactive mom. And now that the milestone is just around the bend, I can not seem to get myself completely ready. I find myself worried of all the things I think need to be in place. Yes, I have had those that are closest to me supportive of all my thoughts, concerns and preparations. But as a rule of thumb women in general seem to be down right pushy with women once you get to a certain age about becoming a mom. Like after 25 women are suppose to just dive in head first ready or not. Is this the norm for others or is it just me?
Either way, pressured or not, I am making plans and preparations as only I can do as a "Planner." My husband finds me silly, but he supports me wanting everything to be "just right" before we reproduce. We together have made plans of all angles of our life. Why would parenthood be any different? I mean I do research for a handbag... Of course it would take me a lot to prepare for a baby.
